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The Rolla Daily News - Rolla, MO
  • Brock's Beef: Saying goodbye is difficult

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  • They say time heals all wounds. That is usually true, but most people struggling with loss don’t want to hear that.
    As I write this column, my heart goes out to the loved ones of Nikki and Lexi.
    Although I didn’t know either of these young ladies, I understand the pain of losing someone you love to a tragedy.
    I lost my brother in 2009 to suicide. In the preceding months, I lost my aunt and one of my friends, both to the disease of addiction.
    There is no textbook way to deal with loss – we all do it in our own way and in our own time.
    While there are stages of grief, don’t expect them to come at a specific time.
    I remember when I heard the news about my brother Johnny. It didn’t seem real. It was almost like my heart refused to accept it; although my mind knew that he was gone.
    I have been told my entire life that “death is part of life.”
    I have asked myself and anyone within earshot on multiple occasions this question: “Why do the good ones have to go?”
    I could ponder existentialism until I am blue in the face, but it will never change reality.
    What is done is done!
    I have to accept things the way they are if I am to experience happiness in this life.
    President Obama quoted a very poignant selection of Bible verses in Newtown, CT., two weeks ago.
    Here is a snippet, 2 Corinthians 4:17: “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.”
    Our physical pain is only temporary. I will be the first to admit that means very little when mourning the loss of someone you love, and I can only imagine the pain of losing a child.
    But please know that you are in my prayers – moms, dads, step-parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.
    I, like most people, lack the discipline to ignore the hustle and bustle of life long enough to focus on what’s important, but I am making it a point to make you important during the holiday season!
    This week, I will be pondering!

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